I got set up again. No, I was not a target of an organised operation. Instead a mutual friend facilitated the date. I can assume that before we met, she already knew a couple of things about me, just like I learnt some facts and figures (bra size, IQ and the amount of tequila shots before she passes out) about her before the date. Later I found out she purposely did not read my writings. I heard this one before. Multiple dates have said this to me.
Team Abstinence prefers to come to the date empty-minded. They want a clean slate, ready to be enriched with thoughts, impressions and knowledge from the date. They also tell me that they favor exploring in the magic of the moment over building further on a preconceived image. You could argue that they are more romantic, idealistic about the dating process. Team Detective is less occupied about the underlying spirit of dating. They are just curious. I can image that they would also type my name in Google or social media to see what comes out, but to say that they would analyse all this information to come to a deeper understanding of my mythical persona, that’s too far.
I don’t really have a preference for one of the two approaches. But I’m probably in Team Abstinence because I live a life of sobriety, balance and restraint. That’s why they call me “M3”. No, it does not mean “Money-Making Machine” but “Modern Moderation Monk(ey)”. Team Abstinence also because I experienced way too many cancellations so I tend to limit my investment of time and energy before dates.
I think doing some research beforehand can be beneficial. You can find things in common and hooking points for conversation. Of course, saying things like “Out of the 69 photos you posted this year, 69% were with Winnie the Poodle. You must love your dog. I love the picture you posted on the 14th of September. Here let me show you, I have it in my personal file about you.” can maybe potentially come across as a tiny bit overeager, just a bit. You can also figure out if he/she is full of shit or not, or if you want to gauge his/her reaction. When you spot multiple drunk pictures, ask him/her if he/she likes to get drunk or not. Wait, see, and learn.
I know you’re all dying to know what delicious food we devoured. Well, we had a real tasty burger. Bun, beyond the ordinary, patty on point and sauce, savory as it should be. Btw, did I mention the weather? It was raining unlimited fries.
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