When I have conversations with people about dating they often mention that they want to meet people organically. Dating apps, speed dating events or club nights out are too artificial, too superficial. It seems that even in the dating world, organic has become a buzz word. I usually mock them by asking them if they expect a situation like this:
A girl is walking on the street. Her hair blows in the wind like in a TV commercial. She’s a bit clumsy though and drops a couple of her sketches. An unsuspicious guy is walking behind her. He’s not checking his phone, and also not her booty. He sees the drawings slowly floating down in a zigzag motion to the ground. As a contemporary Good Samaritan, he crouches to collect the papers. The girl gets on her knees as well (to collect the papers). And in that moment, their eyes lock (it was not a sunny day so they are both not wearing sun glasses). The world stopped turning but their hearts started racing like pounding techno music. They feel… they feel an instant connection. And there’s more… so much more but I can’t describe it in earthly words. You only can understand what happened if you have lived this out-of-body experience. But I’ll try. *takes a deep breath* It’s… as if… there is enough chemistry to open a drug lab, enough electricity to charge 69 Tesla’s, enough fire to burn the whole Amazon rainforest. Then after this organic encounter, they started some small talk and agreed to see each other again.
I’m not a cynic that tells you that romance is dead. Romance and chivalry are timeless and magnificent. But romance portrayed in mainstream media and probably in the minds of a great deal of people is just not realistic. I was at a cosy music event when I first spotted my date-to-be. I sipped my drink while she swaggered by. Hmm, tasty. The show was about to start so we went inside to our seats and it happened that she was sitting behind us. During the break both her companion and mine needed to go to the toilet. She was there on her own, I was on my own so I turned around and started chatting with her. We had a short conversation while the others joined us back. The show ended and at the very end, just before parting ways, I asked her out. It was messy as fuck but she agreed. She chose to go to the movies.
Did we meet organically? There were so many uncontrollable factors involved: us attending the event, her sitting behind me, us being isolated from other people during the break, her cousin not cockblocking me, the presence of my female friend (negative: she thinks she’s my girlfriend, positive: he’s with a girl so he’s not a random creep) etc. Of course, I showed up as a man and did my duty but basically this encounter was sheer luck. There was nothing organic, it was pure luck. It was a beautiful encounter in the sense that it was unexpected. But how often do this kind of things happen? Are we really expecting that a guy/girl will suddenly fall into our lap when we’re picking our nose? No no no, organic encounters are wishful dreams. Wishful, but dreams nonetheless.
I know you’re all dying to know which movie we watched. Well, nothing can trump some good ol’ childhood nostalgia with the new Lion King. Still a 10/10.
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