“I see no colours, every human is the same for me” a girl recently told me. I called her out for this crap. She sheepishly admitted her gibberish. You know everyone judges people so why pretend you’re not doing it? Is it really about being an open-minded person or more about pretending to be one? I judge the fuck out of people. It would be a bit stupid to always start from a blank slate but that doesn’t mean that I know it all. When I’m travelling and people ask me where I’m from, of course they are not expecting me to say Belgium. They see an asian-looking dude. That’s just normal behaviour of visually unimpaired people. But, it’s better to keep that mouth spitting arigatos and konichiwas shut next time. And asia is not a country.
I can’t blame people though. There’s so much you don’t see and know. Even if you try to expand your experiences, horizons and mind as broadly as possible there are still hidden sides of society you’re not aware of. Until you see it with your own eyes. I was on the tram the other day with a very scarcily dressed girl and a tattood, bad boy-looking guy. They got off the same stop like me and we walked in the same direction. They stopped at a house. A senior citizen opened the door and let the hooker in while the pimp stayed outside. It all happened in the middle of the day in a residential neighbourhood, not your average situation you’re expecting. I was not shocked to witness this but I realised that a lot of shit is going on without me even noticing.
There’s only so much your awareness can capture. There’s not always the time and place to go deep in conversations so you make judgments about people. That’s your best bet. Sometimes you’re right, sometimes you’re wrong. You’ll misunderstand, you’ll learn. Cool right? When I tell people about this blog for the first time, almost no one replies with something related to writing, it’s all about the dating and girls part. I try my best to explain the concept and “vision” as much as possible (always stressing the fact that writing is the core) but there’s only so much you can do. People will often misunderstand or judge you anyway. How people perceive you and your actions are outside of your control. So do like me, let the writings do the talking.
Judge like nobody’s watching.
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