A good thing about going for coffee or drinks for a date is that you can eject quickly when things go south. Just take your parachute and jump. See ya later, alligator! In other instances, you’re stuck with the other person for some time. This could mean heaven or hell.
I guess there’s a sweet spot in terms of duration of a first date. I’d say between 2-4 hours. One hour seems a bit rushed and feels like a business meeting. Lengthy dates on the other hand increase the risk of losing the good vibe or sharing too much information. It’s only a first date so no reason to spill all the beans. A first date is in essence also not fucking up. Just act normal and cool.
I guess it’s also personal style or preference. My energy is usually more laidback so I need more time to connect. Someone super enthusiastic would definitely get more crosses behind his/her name during a speed date. For me, seven minutes is not enough to charm the girlz. But sometimes you already know after a couple of minutes that the other person is better off making someone else happy. You try to put your preconceptions and first impression aside and give her/him a fair chance. It’s hard. It’s like stop focusing on someone who uses a certain filler word. Once you hear it, you can’t unhear it. It starts to annoy you and then you punch the person in the face. No second date.
For a second date, I feel it can be a long one. You already know the other person is an acceptable human being and you don’t need to be overly polite anymore. You can relax and release the fart you’ve been holding in for hours. It’s also the time to dig deeper and get a glimpse of all the mental baggage and trauma behind the pretty face. Just kidding, it’s an opportunity to uncover hidden interests and listen to cool stories. After Date 2, it should be clear in which direction it’s going and if you’re going alone or together.
When in doubt, take your parachute and jump. After a while, crocodile!
I know you’re all dying to know where we went. Well, we drove to another emirate for a beach we couldn’t find.
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