What is tougher? Getting rejected or rejecting someone? For me it’s the latter. The more girls I meet, the more I get rejected but at the same time I’m collecting information on what I like and dislike. After a while, you can quickly filter through the would do’s and would nots. I think it’s a trap though. You start treating people like a commodity. As if you’re running a cost-benefit analysis after a date:
Pros (+16)
- Smells nice, hair smells nice too +3
- Very talkative +3
- Juicy ass +4
- Laughs with my jokes. Doesn’t cry when I make fun of her +1
- Determined, has clear vision +5
Cons (-18)
- Phone is glued to her hand -6
- Lives in the middle of nowhere -2
- Doesn’t read books -5
- Vegetarian -2
- Says she loves travel but has only visited Luxembourg (and Costa Rica if you count the Virtual Reality experience she once did) -3
Dear Mrs. Juicy Ass,
Thank you very much for the date. I appreciate you had the courage to come to the big and dangerous city of Brussels, and I enjoyed talking to you. After careful consideration and sleepless nights, I regret to inform you that the decision has been taken from my side to cease any gestures of romantic intent. It’s not you, it’s me. You’re a great girl but it was not meant to be. You deserve someone better than me. I’m afraid I’ll hurt your feelings. I just need to follow my heart. I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavours.
Let me know if you have any remarks or questions!
Cheerio, Andy
We don’t want this.
It’s very paradoxical. The more you know what you want, the harder it gets. Everybody knows some single people with insane, unrealistic expectations on their list. They love to complain how hard dating life is and that all good guys/girls are taken. After cutting through the noise of hope, promise and projections, in the end, you just want to be happy and feel good with someone. It’s simple as that. You’re responsible for your own hapiness anyway.
There’s also an opportunistic part in me that thinks “maybe not her, but her friends”. I haven’t figured out that part yet. You meet a random girl, you go on a date, there’s no real match. Now usually it ends for me, either I accept her choice or I break contact. I think it’s nice to pull the plug and move on (if possible on a high note). Or I could “remain friends”. And now what? You hang out again one-to-one until you become good friends and invite each other to her/my friends? That’s just weird. Not seeing it right now but maybe I should give it a try…
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