There’s the saying that opposites attract. We humans want someone to complement ourselves, to fill in the gaps, to be a versatile team together. However, this notion was refuted in a very scientific study (Andy et al., 69 Dates, 2021). In this breakthrough inquiry, the brilliant author noticed a disproportionate sample of chickies with identical first name letter(s) in his mating pool. Suffering through countless hours of non-stop rambling of those ladies about the superficial and finer things in the universe, the ingenious scientist distilled that in a few instances, former fornication partners carried the same heavenly vowel as first letter in their names. Sheer brain power and meticulous analysis while wearing a fluffy bath robe lead to the inception of a pioneering conclusion: bath robes are comfy. Also, perhaps we’re attracted to people similar to us.
I can see the human tendency for sticking to the familiar. A lot of dating remains within the same circle of language, nationality, race, socio-economic level, culture etc. Even silly things like name, interest or food preference (giving up pork or exchanging that daily bowl of rice for a low-carb diet…) could play a role. Of course, I spotted countless mixed examples, especially in a city like Dubai, but still. I was about to say that people unconsciously choose resembling partners but that would be cutting corners like consultants do in their conclusion slides. Some factors are a bit more obvious and divisive. Personal preference for similar values, lifestyle and future outlook are almost non-negotiable. Let’s also not forget social circle and family. We live in 2022 but I imagine in some households coming home with a brownie or a Jew might still not be fully accepted (at first) because it’s different and, most likely, unknown.
Similarities might bring us comfort and familiarity but as my date mentioned, it’s a whole new experience when you go for someone outside your usual demographic. You can also officially call yourself open-minded then.
I know you’re all dying to know what we shopped for during this date. Well, she bought a stuffed animal for her little niece.
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